Struggling with honesty to be ourselves honestly.

“Honesty and transparency make you vulnerable. Be honest and transparent anyway.”
Mother Teresa, ( 1910 to 1997)

This is exactly why we struggle with honesty, because it makes us vulnerable. Mother Teresa certainly had a way with words. This quote is from her longer poem and which is well worth quoting in its entirety.

“People are unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered. Love them anyway.
If you do good, people may accuse you of selfish motives. Do good anyway.
If you are successful, you may win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
Honesty and transparency make you vulnerable. Be honest and transparent anyway.
What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. Build anyway.
People who really want help may attack you if you help them. Help them anyway.
Give the world the best you have and you may get hurt. Give the world your best anyway.”

Love is honest when fully lived from. All dishonesty is only lack of sufficient love. This might seem harsh, but nevertheless it is true. Honesty, total honesty is always related to total loving. In total loving we are vulnerable as well, and so honesty to be given must be total, or it is better not given at all. Honesty is only love loving in its own way. All love is honest. Honesty is loving another soul wholly and completely, and honesty and giving others our own honest truth is really the true measure of how much we love them.

Honesty is related to trust. When we trust someone we are being honest towards them. When we love someone we trust them, and honesty always accompanies love and trust. They are inseparable companions on the journey of love moving from your heart back to its home in God. Dishonesty springs from wanting to believe in untruths.

Dishonesty is distorted truth seen through the eyes of not love but the ego wanting to have its own way over the heart.

Can I trust my anyone if they are lying to me dishonestly, or telling others untruths about me? Does the truth include half truths? Can someone tell white lies for us and about us and still be valued for their honesty? How far does honesty reach and extend itself outwards? Is there an end to honesty?

“A half truth is a whole lie.” ~ Yiddish Proverb

A truth that’s told with bad intent beats all the lies you can invent. ~ William Blake, English poet (1757 to 1827)

The most dangerous untruths are truths that are moderately distorted. ~ Georg Christoph Lichtenberg, German scientist ( 1742 to 1799)

To me honesty must always be pure and must be always only ever one hundred percent given and given only ever fully as itself to remain itself, total honesty. The way that it is given can be loving or unloving, but to me total honesty can never be unloving, because when it is being unloving to me anyway it then moves slightly away from being total honesty. Total honesty to me is always totally loving as well. A big call, but honesty to me is important enough to require this much of itself to be able to achieve the meaning of its true name I feel.

Can truth and honesty have a start and an end? No, of course not. To have a beginning and an ending I think would take something away from honesty. Honesty like love is only ever itself. It has no start or end, but honesty is always itself in the now of itself.

Greatness then is not arrived at from being only half honest. Greatness is total honesty combined with total loving. Love is not just a truthful occurrence of honesty, but honesty is a truthful occurrence of loving. Love is all things at all times. Truth is part of honesty and honesty a part of truth. Love however is always more broadly all encompassing. We can love and be still not aware enough to live our own truth totally honestly as yet.

Love always forgives, and lives in you today, yesterday and tomorrow. Love is always trying to be as honest as it can be with the awareness level of love that you currently possess. Love gains wisdom from experiences of itself. Love learns through everything including initially your dishonesty. Love however bows to no one else except to allow its truth to arise from the untruth that you currently envisage as your truth. Your untruth and dishonesty are still being accompanied by love. You are just not aware enough to apply the love totally honestly as yet.

Love enough to be honest and be honest enough to love. Honesty grows with your experiences of love, and love grows wiser in you to honestly give itself more honestly as you try to be more loving in your honesty.

The two are connected intimately and when you try to be more honest you will learn more about being more loving. When you strive to be more loving you will be more honest as a result as well.

Allow truth to always guide you honestly and be honestly guided by your truth. Be honest in yourself. Allow love to honestly reveal in you to you what is really necessary and separate out from you that which is only really just being ego driven in you.

Should we always then be truthful and honest with absolutely everyone? Can love ever override these values at times?

Love overrides all in its path, but love walks though truth honestly. Love is unconcerned when an aspect of truth is left behind though while it’s still loving. Love loves truthfully and fully without enforcing or forcing its own truths onto anyone else. Truth to me is only ever the truth of an individual knowing themselves.

Honesty is the giving of ourselves to another person and is not forcing our own truths onto them. They have their own truths to live from.

Truth and honesty are slightly different in the way that they can be given out to another person. We can remain honest without needing to give out our own truths to try to change others into believing or following our own truths. This then is being kindly loving rather than only being brutally truthful.

Honesty to be genuine is not anything extraordinary. When we love honesty genuinely we are never tired of following love honestly.

Love is extraordinary and so is honesty and yet they both remain neither extraordinary nor simple when they are followed from your own heart. They are just being themselves along with you being yourself. This is of course being extraordinary within the ordinary. We are all extraordinary in the sense of being unique individuals, and ordinary in the sense of all being equal parts of God. Create a feeling of honesty in yourself by allowing the truth of yourself to speak to you, and then just follow your own truth with love.

To follow love from your heart is not simple for the very reason that you are trying and struggling to follow it from your mind. When you live in your heart instead of following it from somewhere else, your mind and all else then follows your heart and not the other way around anymore. When living in your heart all the struggles of your mind are put behind you to melt away into the love that is now surrounding them from your heart.