Honesty is the best Policy – Agree

Telling the truth all the time is not necessarily a good idea, but Honesty is still the best policy.

Sounds like one heck of a contradiction except not telling the truth all the time does not necessarily mean telling lies.

I see people do it all the time, especially friends, “I’m your friend and I am not going to lie to you”.

In many occasions, you can be Honest without telling the “truth”. If what one says is going to hurt anyone’s feelings it is usually best not to say it. Some people just tell little lies and call them “white lies”; however, this is not a good idea.

It is best simply to “skirt” the issue with an indirect answer. Remember the old, “If you can’t say anything good about someone, don’t say anything at all” rule.

When ones best friend comes up to them with a, “How do you like it?”, and you look at that new multi-colored hair. It is best not to tell that friend that she or he looks like one of those multi-colored “fruit bomb” ice creams on a stick.

Hold your laughter in and use the, “If it does not hurt them and it does not hurt anyone else, then it is OK” rule. A big smile and an excited, “Wow, that is really wild” will most always do the trick. Not saying you like it but just being excited (for them) about it.

Sometimes a friend can be unknowing masochistic and demanding, “But, do you like it?”

“What are you talking about? You know that I always love it when you do wild stuff! Are we still on for tonight?” try to veer off the subject at hand.

It can even come down to a “Well, I wouldn’t do it, but I don’t have the courage that you have. I live the excitement of my life vicariously, through you.”

One can see that this does not interrupt, “Honesty is the best policy”.

Telling blanket lies, however, will most often come back to haunt one. Lies most often must be backed up with lies. One can start with a little bitty lie and have it build into so big a lie that it cannot help but lead to a conviction by one’s friends, family or neighbors.

Lying in court is the worst thing one can do. Again, one lie leads to another but in a court situation, the judge can usually tell when one is lying. Body language and the primary “give-away” which is eye movement.

When someone is trying honestly to remember something, the eyes will move to one side. When they are trying to think of a fitting lie, the eyes will move to the other side. Especially in a court of law, one lie and that person will lose all credibility.

Many people can tell when one is lying, not just court judges. If one is honest from the beginning, there is no need to add more lies to keep the first lie alive.

Honesty has always been the best policy and will always be the best policy.