Social graces or manners are lacking in our society today. Some people may even refer to manners as “home training.” Why does it seem that some people are lacking in these important values or decorum’s?  These impolite behaviors in our society today are atrocious.Some people don’t seem to have manners anymore. The common manners have been dispensed with. There isn’t a reason for common courtesy between people anymore, or so it seems. We might wonder ,”why some people do not seem to have manners?

Manners are a relevant and necessary component in a progressive and successful society. We should demonstrate our professional manners in our business affairs. The next time you are granted an interview for a job, please don’t forget to follow up with a “thank you ” note for the interview. This simple gesture might land you that job. 

In essence, political correctness is demonstrating reserve, and consideration of others viewpoints.It is always courteous to allow others to express their views without interruption or criticism. In the political arena, we would say this type of mannerism is considered politically correct. 

Manners should be practiced by everyone. Men, women and children should adhere to this code of conduct. Manners should be an equal opportunity crossing all cultures. Instead of encountering mannerly people in our everyday life, we often encounter rude, impolite, obnoxious people who may be too hurried to say, “please excuse me.” Is being in a hurry an excuse for shunning manners and not extending polite or courteous behavior towards others? Let’s examine this current phenomena much more closely. 

Language barriers and cultural differences  may inhibit our understanding of one another. We can employ our patience and consideration of our differences to combat any misunderstandings we might encounter with someone else. Remember, we are living in a diverse culture these days. 

We can assume that children are taught manners by their parents. Unfortunately, the structure of our families may have changed over the past decades. Both parents, may be working hard to sustain their family. The rate of divorce in this country can also affect the dynamic in the family. Consider this scenario, a parent is too busy, unavailable or neglectful in teaching their child manners. The child doesn’t have a mentor or anyone that they can mirror their behaviors. The child hasn’t developed their social skills or the proper manners they need to conduct themselves in our society.

It’s evident that these social skills are needed to socialize and interact with others.The child isn’t taught manners in their own home. The child isn’t taught to say , “please or thank you.”  Absolutely, it’s not the fault of the child’s. However, we can correct this behavior by continuing to treat others in the way we wish to be treated. Sooner or later they will get the picture.  Good manners will soon catch on!

Socialization skills suffer under these deplorable conditions. A child might not show consideration or respect to their teacher or other children in the classroom. They may be on their way to becoming inconsiderate and impolite adults with this type of behavior. Some might conclude, it’s because, they didn’t have any home training.

It stands to reason that manners are a learned concept. Every situation has a certain decorum that should be followed. For instance, please should always precede a request of any kind. A “thank you” should always follow an act of consideration. These are basic rules of engagement. Thank you for considering this topic for discussion.