You can program your life for success.  The greatest challenge is finding what helps a person become most resilient to failure, and conquering your own fears of success.  A few steps to take will help anyone achieve this. They include:

1. First of all, realize there will be setbacks and prepare an attitude of gratitude toward these as life learning lessons.  No one succeeds 100% in everything they do, and no one can control outside influences. What you can control is your ability to accept challenges. Rather than calling them problems, disasters, failures, or curses, re-label them as learning experience, and feel good about your self for meeting each challenge as it arrives.

2. Set goals you know are realistic for yourself.  If you are a small person, don’t expect to get into the NBA, or become a super model.  Enjoy games as they are, and feel like a model by setting your own sense of style and taste.  Find hidden talents you do have and emphasize them.  Everyone is good at something, it is likely what you love most is what you enjoy doing, which brings us to the next step.

3. Find what you really love and do it.  Do not expect overnight success, or even a lot of money.  Realize your passion, and share your enthusiasm with everyone you meet. This is a form of networking as well as a way to find like minded people who support your inspiration.

4. The secret to a successful life is defining a high quality life over a high quantity of stuff that piles on your burdens and obligations.  Realize that nothing in life is free, but the things worth preserving, beautiful wilderness, or a walk in the park, are worth investing your personal time and attention for reducing stress, loving life through appreciating the beauty of life, healing, and inspiring you. For example if you do any artwork, or write, realize the living things that inspire you and say quiet thanks for them. Whether your inspiration is puppies or guppies, see how miraculous they are and share that wonder by working with them somehow.

5. Realize life is never a cake walk, and you will feel downtrodden at times. This is a pitfall that often leads people to fear success. What is truly being feared is not success but rejection. You feel a dis-connect from the world, and most human beings are afraid of that “non-belonging.”  Once you realize that everyone experiences different forms of rejection throughout life, you can control this self sabotage. See it for what it is, just another challenge. Give yourself permission to “fail” over and over, but reward yourself with even more gratitude and positive energy when you do.

6. Finally, live in the moment as much as you can.  Our disconnect with others and the living world is fueled by human focus of regret over the past, and anxiety, or fear of the future. When you live in the moment, you are alive. When you find yourself in constant fear or regret, you are not connected to the very air you breathe, food you eat, or even the persons, or landscapes you love the most.  Open your senses to the present moment. You will feel success from the first inspiration, which comes from the root word of breathe itself. Life is beautiful, you have been given the rarest gift there is, accept it!