You’re already aware that I’ve been guilty of gossiping, and I know you’ve been guilty of it too. It’s what human beings do, but why is that true? I believe it’s all about, “the ego,” which is why I’m able to forgive myself and everyone else who does the gossiping thing, because you see, it’s only our egos. It’s the reason we came up with the phrase, “human being.”

The human side of each being has an ego which needs to have evidence that it exists and has meaning, so gossiping is my way to feel more important than you, and you gossip about me to feel superior too. Even so, it’s our being that knows the truth.

Everything in humanity has an ego and even countries do. You see, we in the USA need to believe we are superior, so we win a war to prove how superior we are. In the mean time, the countries who fight the war begin to gossip too. Countries do this through propaganda so that we can convince the rest of the world that we are right and the other country is wrong. At the same time, the USA has a soul deep inside the human beings who exist within it. We Americans believe the land that makes up the USA belongs to us, but you see, we can’t own the land. The USA belongs to the earth, which belongs to the universe, which belongs to God in heaven above, just like us.

It’s the soul in our country which admits its mistakes and tries to find peace all the time with the rest of the earth in the universe where all human beings must exist together by trying to find peace in the process of life. Still, I digress and I’m repeating myself, but I guess it’s my ego’s way to express it best and better than anyone else. The question is why do we human beings gossip. Isn’t it?

Gossiping is like the disease of cancer. It begins with just one bad cell which comes from one thought in one human mind. With our ego’s need to be identified with something outside itself, we gossip about someone else which gives us at least a false identity. If I judge you to someone within my view, it makes me believe that I’m better than you and it also provides the opportunity for me to prove it to someone other than you. It’s true that gossiping is a confusing thing people do, but we simply need to believe that our egos can survive in spite of what our being says on the inside.

The best example of this is a story I’ll share with you about someone who was once my friend, but gossiped about me so much that I ended the friendship. Still, I must admit that the reason I’m using this story as an example of what gossip can do is due to my egos need to tell you. If I explain the gossiping concept by using someone who was once a friend but no longer is, my ego believes that you will see my side of things which will help my ego believe that I am better than my former friend used to be. Do you see?

Today, I don’t take it personally. I know it’s just my ego, but at the same time, I’d like to share this story of mine where I can describe what gossiping did to boost my ex-friend’s ego and destroy mine. Then again, in the end, sharing this story will be my ego’s way to boost itself back up again, and in the process, it will at least damage my ex-friend’s human ego which was boosted at my expense.

I don’t know why I was surprised. She gossiped all the time. I knew who she was, what she did and what she was like long before I heard about her lies, but maybe my ego believed that if she gossiped to me about other human beings, it could be that she believed I was just as superior as she?

The rumors she spread about me went all through my small town. Soon, every human being who came into my view began to gossip about me too. The rumors spread from that one gossip cell and made me feel compelled to defend myself, which led my ego to gossip about the friend who gossiped about me as well. Before I knew it, I’d forgotten what started the gossiping, but by then our friendship came to an end.

Wait. Never mind. I changed my mind. I won’t tell you what my ex-friend said and if you are disappointed not to hear what she said about me, it’s only your human side and the ego in your mind. Do you see what I mean? That’s what gossiping provides.

It’s a way for us to feel identified. If our human egos don’t know how to find that being inside, we’ll make up lies to find an identity through the confused view of our egos. If I gossip about you, it’s my egos way to hide behind a lie that makes me believe I’m a superior human, but only my being knows the truth about you and me and why we gossip.

You see, we have two sides and the human side is what makes us identify with lies. The human holds our ego, but the being holds our soul. The human believes, “something is missing,” because it can’t see the being, but when we are aware it’s there, the ego vanishes into the air. When that happens, it may seem like a rude awakening, but an awakening just the same.

Our being knows that gossiping is all about the ego, so it waits patiently for us to see that our being doesn’t need to be identified by anything and certainly not gossiping. It’s the soul inside the being of human beings which is wise all the time. It tries to teach the human to be more of a being and let go of the ego so the soul can find the perfect peace it seeks. That’s why I believe the human side of me thinks, “something is missing.”

What is missing when we gossip is the perfect peace our being knows from the depths of the soul that human beings are seeking. We can’t find it through gossiping, but it doesn’t keep the human ego from trying.

Don’t get me wrong. It’s not that the ego is a bad thing. We human beings need an ego so that we can be motivated to achieve our goals and the things we own which give our ego meaning. It’s when we focus only on the ego, forgetting about the soul, that keeps us from being a complete human being, with peace of mind.

When the awakening comes, we humans will begin to see our egos don’t mean a thing. All those things that gave a sense of identity, like our homes, cars, careers, roles, people and gossiping will never identify our true inner beings.

My being knows deep inside that I am a part of you and you are a part of me, so when you gossip about me, my being knows it’s only your ego. . .and so. . .my soul can let it go. The being knows that gossiping can’t hurt the being so it doesn’t need to defend anything. It simply observes the human ego with compassion and the perfect peace that says, ” I don’t own anything but my soul, so I choose to let this go.” I won’t need to gossip about you, because you see, my being knows the ego is simply a false identity the human side of me needed for a while to feel alive and prove to everyone else that I exist. I have meaning and worth, and I don’t have to wallow around in dirt to prove it.

I believe that when we become aware there’s a being in there somewhere, our ego will know it’s time to go, leaving us in the perfect peace we humans seek inside the depths of our soul. So, next time someone gossips about you, let go of your ego and refuse to gossip too. If you do, the gossip cell can’t grow into a disease that hurts you. It will simply dissolve just because you’ve become aware of the being inside you somewhere.

Today I can honestly say I’ve never been more aware there’s a being in me somewhere, and that all by itself means my ego is fading which brings me closer and closer to the perfect peace my being finds all the time with no need to be identified. I can actually be anonymously victim free!

To Conclude:

Gossip if you wish, but please remember this:

The only thing you own is your soul. You will never be superior to me and I’ll never be superior to you, so gossiping will be a useless waste of human life and time. Become aware there’s a being somewhere, and then in the end, your need to gossip will disappear and if you stop gossiping, you’ll see that people will stop gossiping about you too. It’s just what human beings do.

But wait! By the way, I know it’s my ego that wrote this article on gossiping. My ego needs to believe that I know more about gossiping than you, and if you rate me high my ego will think that “I” am right. My ego will believe that I can write about gossiping better than anyone else. It’s why the ego in me needs to be number one, but my being knows that I don’t need to be identified by what I wrote on gossiping. The me in my being knows that what I say or believe doesn’t mean a thing. Even so, my ego hopes you rate me high anyway. After all, like you, I do have a human side too.