It’s easy to say that according to mainstream media and society at large, the act of marriage has lost its holiness. Today most individuals wouldn’t think of deeming marriage as sacred or consecrated and certainly not holy. There is a buzz that encircles most of society’s singles that says you have to make sure you are sexually compatible before you commit the remainder of your life to just one person. Suffice it to say that most individuals probably wouldn’t consider marriage to be life long or a commitment. It seems that marriage has diminished or evolved into a relationship of convenience for the most part; at least at a glance it seems that way. I certainly don’t have all the answers when it comes to the marriage bed but I do believe God intended this to be the most sacred of all relationships. He even goes as far as to say that our relationship to Him is considered that of us being the bride and Him being the groom. Therefore, there are a few guidelines to live by that God made a point in giving us; it seems that if we desire to know the truth of this age old question “to have premarital sex or to not have premarital sex” we’d seek out our Creators instruction.

Sexually active singles have a myriad of issues to weed through as well as other social dysfunctions that come from losing that most sacred part of who you are to someone who may throw it away as useless trash. The act of sex happens to be a person’s most intimate possession and has the potential of being the greatest gift they could offer their future husband or wife.

I have heard it said that the idea of waiting to have sex until you are married is unrealistic and unreasonable; the problem with that statement is that it generally comes from someone who didn’t wait. I have met many couples who were each others first and their marriage seems to be less crowded with the baggage that attaches to individuals when they have both been with others or even if one has been with someone else. I can speak as one who did not wait; low self worth and self esteem often plagued my young adult life. There was always a sense of feeling dirty that I could not shake, thankfully God in His great mercy has shown me my worth and value to Him which has made all the difference in my life.

I know this point of view may seem a bit extreme, however, I do believe God created sex to be a beautiful act shared with two individuals that became one when they wed and this point of view is shared by many couples throughout the world. Often in scripture sex was the seal of the marriage commitment. God never intended mankind to have to deal with unwanted pregnancies; He says children are a gift from the Lord, blessed is the man whose quiver is full. He also explains in chapter 13 of the book of Corinthians what real love is and in the course of that whole chapter, sex was not part of the description of love.

Waiting to have sex is not the easiest choice to make. As I said before, I did not wait to have sex with my husband and I didn’t write this with intentions of criticizing or condemning anyone. As a fellow member of this world and all of its trappings, I understand the societal norms and traditions of men that lead us down any given particular path. I just happen to believe that God made a better way that has no faulty repricutions. Sex is not a gauge of whether you belong together, it is the reward of the couple who makes the choice to commit their lives to one another for as long as they both shall live, and anything in this life that is good is worth waiting for.