Sex before Marriage Opinion with Approval – Yes

“Should people have sex before marriage?” is the wrong question to ask on such a dicey subject!

Why is that, you may inquire? This is one of those situations where I actually follow the advice from my mother…. We never had a sit-down talk about sex while I was growing up, she never felt the need, I guess. But when “Family Education” rolled around (and then it was actually called Sex Ed later in high school) I asked my mother, not what sex was or when I should have it, but “Did you have sex before you were married?” And the answer was yes. I happened to mention that the teachers at school said us kids should wait until marriage. I don’t think I will ever forget her surprised look and response: “Why would you buy a pair of shoes without trying them on first?”

Besides the fact that having sex before marriage really is a personal decision between the people who are interested in it, I can not help but note that many people will mention: “But the Bible says it wrong!” And the Bible also says that people shouldn’t eat certain things on Fridays, shouldn’t marry a pig, and other such stories that do not really make sense in our modern world. Don’t get me wrong, the Bible contains a lot of good stories but it is VERY outdated. In today’s world giving an eye for an eye will land you in jail, so perhaps not following the Bible, but following your own good sense would be a better way to navigate questionable waters like these.

But back to the story with my mother. The idea (I first heard this when I was ten, mind you,) was a mind-boggling one and shaped my personal views on sex since then. But the practicality of it rings true. Has anyone bought a pair of shoes without trying them on first? How do you know if you will like them unless you do? How will you know if they will be comfortable? How will you know if you want to spend your time and money on these shoes? Will these shoes last long? Do they have a recommendation? Are they brand-new or slightly used?

All these questions you could turn to sex too and that way you know what you’re getting yourself into. Again, the real question should not be “Should people have sex before marriage?” but “Are people emotionally, physically, mentally, and even spiritually ready to have sex at all?” And if you can answer this question, then there is no need to consider having a ring on your finger beforehand or not.