We have often heard that attitude is everything and what our attitude is; will be reflected in our life style in one manner or the other.  We can be sure that it is true that attitude can and does affect life style choices if we watch other people closely.  It can also be said that each person chooses the life they want to live by the choices they make and yes; their attitude toward life affects their life style choices.  It can be concluded that we each make a decision to be happy, or sad.  We choose to educate ourselves so that our life style can flourish or we tend to accept just being mediocre is okay.  Our attitude and choices produce the results of our life style. We choose to become something of value to mankind or we choose to feel sorry for ourselves and become complacent in life.  It is all about our attitude toward life.

As we get into this just a little further to reflect on some of the ways in which our attitude brings about favorable or unfavorable life choices; we must certainly reflect on our mental thoughts.  When we constantly have negative thoughts, those thoughts will become what we think if we dwell on them.  It is not uncommon for most of us to have thoughts that are not healthy at some points in life, but when we have positive thoughts and a positive attitude toward life; it can amazingly contribute to our good fortune.  After all; the good things in life is what we should be seeking and believing in. If we let our thoughts keep us from seeking those things which are good; we will develop a life style contrary to what is good.

As we reflect; we know that life can never be perfect for anyone. What is important is that we never stop believing in ourselves and develop an attitude toward life things that are positive; regardless of the outcome of certain things. We have trials, errors, roadblocks, and interferences even when things turn out positive or good sometimes.  There are times when we are baffled and discouraged. This is life, but we should never let the roadblocks cut us off from trying, and we should never let what someone else does captivate us. We have our own life to live and we must find our own success.

We know that some people are just more efficient in staying strong regardless of the temporary difficulties in their life. One might say that we all have very different circumstances and some have had a more positive life style than others, and it is hard to change what we may have lived for so long.  We have to disagree with this attitude.  Why?  It may seem easier for a person who has always lived in a positive environment; had money or advantages and even had a lot of praise in their life, but it all comes down to a person’s own attitude.  The advantages may help, but it is our own hard work that brings results that are more favorable.  Most of us have seen people who have had a lot of disadvantages turn their life into something very worthwhile and profitable by walking away from the bad and forming their own positive attitude about how life should be.  It starts in the heart with desire and goes to the mind….attitude is everything.

Someone who has always lived in positive circumstances and has been treated well in life usually performs better because they seem to believe in themselves, but it doesn’t mean they always succeed.  Sometimes it is just as hard for those with advantages because they set their sights on high ideals which are unreachable. Everyone must find their own path and it simply means they do not let fear take control.  They decide their life will go in a certain direction; they will behave and perform a certain way.  If they stumble or fail; they will get up, start over, and examine their choices to see if they are on target.

Sometimes, we all may be unsure of how to handle certain aspects of life and this can in itself affect our life choices.  Fear can set in and stifle us. This can be especially true for those who seem to never have an end to struggle or anything that turns out in a constructive way. So these are the times that seeking help is needed to get our perspective and attitude back to a state of positive reflections and an attitude which will not alter our life negatively. 

An example of altering an attitude to bring about better results is a child who grows up in a disturbed family atmosphere.  He or she sees a lot of bickering, criticism, and confusion without a lot of stability; if any.  There is no praise for things well done; not even good grades. The parent’s attitude is that life “sucks,” so to speak, and nothing is fair nor turns out good or in their favor. The child’s attitude about how life can be may sometimes be; some what warped.  In this prospective; only that child who becomes a teenager and then an adult can find the inner power to connect to something more positive than what they have been raised in. They can lean toward the same attitude about life or change their life.

They can follow in their parent’s footsteps or they can change their life by developing their thoughts in a productive way to change the outcome of their life in a more positive way.  At any age after we have become old enough to figure things out; it is up to each individual to be determined that life does not just happen.  It is what we make it and that our thoughts do lead us to destruction or failure but they can also lead us to success and happiness.  “Life is unfair, it just is,” once quoted by a psychologist, but there is always something good and it depends upon our attitude.  Our attitude is what renders positive results or negative results in our life.  For instance; seeing the cup half full or half empty; yet knowing that all things are what we make them.  If we have an attitude of “I am a winner; not a dead beat,” we will win at something, and at some point.  If we have the attitude that I can’t do anything right,” it can make us lazy, withdrawn and without initiative to even try. 

The key is reflecting on things we do well and believing that we can become better at the things we cannot do well; it is our choice. It simply means being smart enough to make the necessary adjustments in our life to amplify the things we do well.

Not anyone or any circumstance can determine your life style unless you allow it. Our own attitude can affect our life style choices in a negative way when we feel sorry for ourselves instead of realizing that we have to change to have our own destiny. Our reflections are our reflections.  Another person’s reflections cannot make our destiny unproductive. Regardless of the influences which surrounds us, it is still our choice to change or to follow; it is not our destiny to live in a disadvantaged state of existence.  It is our life style choice when we let the wrong attitude become complacent.