I believe that no one should judge another person. Unfortunately, not everyone feels this way. Judging another person is the same as criticizing them. There is an old saying, “never judge a book by it’s cover.” Now when you relate this to people it really holds true. How many times do you meet someone and they act mean or snobby but once you get to know them you see that they are actually very nice.

“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”, this is a quote from the King James version Bible. Jesus told his Apostles this. It makes good sense because If I don’t want people judging me than I should not judge others.

The real truth is that everyone is different and no one is perfect. If I see someone that is dressed funny or is over-weight I don’t judge them. How can I when I don’t even know them.  Is anyone of us perfect and without faults in this world? I don’t think so. So what gives you or I the right to judge someone else?

Judging people is criticizing people or singling out an individual because they are different.  I can remember being in elementary school and the other kids would make fun of me because I didn’t have designer jeans or those sixty dollar sneakers. When I told my mom about it. She asked me, “do you want to look like everyone else?”  I replied, “somewhat not exactly.” I didn’t want to be called names or insulted either because my clothes were not exactly like my class mates. As I got older I realized that what others say isn’t important. If you don’t like the way I’m dressed than don’t look at me.

 I have two sons and when they were very young I would always correct them if they said something judgemental about someone. Kids can be very cruel to other kids as well as adults. People may think that judging someone is no big deal but I have news for you, it is a big deal. Do you realize that some young children and teens are psychologically hurt by this type of behavior. Some teens become Anorexic, Bulimic, depressed or start taking drugs or drink alcohol just because they feel they don’t fit in. Some kids as well as adults isolate themselves from others because of the cruel things that were said to them.

There is no need to judge anyone. If you have a friend and notice something that doesn’t seem quite right, do you make fun of them? No. Instead, you will find a nice way to suggest that maybe they should change something.  Why? Because you don’t want to hurt their feelings. If your child doesn’t do something the right way. You find a way to show them the correct way without judging them.

Judging a child or an adult can be very damaging especially if the person is sensitive. Some of us get so used to it that we can blow it off but it still doesn’t make it right. The best thing to do is to keep your opinions to ourselves. Another thing to think about before you judge someone is why are they so important that you need to judge them. Hey, they must be pretty special.

For those of us that are judged. Ignore it!  You will never satisfy the whole world. Just try to satisfy everyone and you will drive yourself crazy. If you are happy with yourself that is what counts. If you’re not happy, make changes and improve yourself for you and no one else. You are special and don’t let anyone tell you different. It is great to be unique.