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Preventing Date Rape

Wikipedia describes date rape as, “the non-consensual sexual activity between people who are known to each other either platonically or sexually. These particular instances of sexual assault take place during a social interaction between the rapist and the victim, hence the name date rape. It may be either planned or spontaneous.”

 Date rape is a horrible crime and it happens all too often. Here are some ways that you can protect yourself. Pass theses on to anybody that you know. (just because you follow these tips, does not guarantee that it will not happen to you, but if you follow them, you will be more aware and will more likely to remain safe.)

Date someone that you know fairly well rather than someone you know casually or who you just met a couple days ago. At first, go on multi-couple or group activities as they are less risky than single dates.

Any first single date should be in a public place. Go out to a restaurant, don’t go to their place for dinner. Be especially leery of someone who wants to go somewhere to talk in private. In the first dates with a person there is no reason that you would have to talk in private.

Don’t’ go on a blind date unless the person comes with a recommendation from someone you know and trust. Even then, try to make this not a single date.

Bring you own money to pay for the date. Paying your own way early in the relationship can help you establish your independence. Even if your date picks up the tab, you may need money for transportation home if something happens that you do not like.

Stay sober. Alcohol and drugs can inhibit judgment and you may put your guard down. Never leave a restaurant, party, or bar with someone you do not know.

Trust your instinct. If you are getting a bad vibe from a person, bail on the date. Being a little rude is far better than suffering from sexual assault. Call a friend or family member to come and get you.

Beware of expensive gifts and lavish dates. Too many guys think that if they pay for nice things, they are owed something in return. If you are getting this message from your date, set him straight right away.

Be on the lookout for a control freak. If you find yourself with someone that insists on his way and ignores your likes and feelings, he may also have no regard for your physical boundaries also.

Steer clear of men who tell raunchy jokes (especially when you first meet them), enjoy pornography and talk about it, or make degrading comments about women. These men have problems with women and sexuality and you do not need them.

Don’t waste your time with someone who will not accept your limits. If they try to force you, or beg you for physical contact, they may end up not just begging but just taking in the end run.

Dating can be fun, but nowadays you have to be on your toes and be smart about things.