Everyone has their own hopes and dreams some are realistic and some are extravagantly only ever a dream but neither should ever be forgotten. The little girl who dreams of being a princess should never have her dream shattered. Instead she should be built up with her dreams as time comes and goes and her world changes as every child’s world changes so will her dreams, never forgetting her first dream and how she was supported through the years of innocence.  In this world of earthly limits and laws there is enough slaps from reality without the crushing blow from loved ones.

     This all applies later on in life when the child is grown and has already told themselves that  college is to expensive, that they are not capable of getting the job they want the most, or that love doesn’t really last . These are all limitations set at an early age brought forward into adult hood creating mental road blocks toward success in any and all aspects. Adults with this mentality are set in a way of living and thinking that will expression them from their true potential. Always accepting the very little life chooses to hand them a mediocre job, a basic education and a failed marriage if any relationship at all always convinced there is no one out there for them.

        On the other hand the children who are up lifted and supported in there early hopes and dreams strive to live up to their full potential shrugging off whatever life’s  cold reality throws at them. More often than not they go above and beyond toward excelling in school reaching for that next degree with confidence they will gain it with ease. Then when it comes to finding a career they find a job that fills them with satisfaction and gratitude at the end everyday knowing they are doing what they love and doing well.  Finally with relationships they are not scared of love or filled with doubt they neither look for it in order to fill an empty hole in their life. They instead have love come to them and they welcome it with optimism and hope at a true lifelong companion filled with give and take on equal levels. I am not saying there life is perfect, yes they have same issues every person has in life it’s how they face these issues and road bumps that makes all the difference.

     The major difference that needs to be seen here is that the adult whose dreams were crushed is left to think in this box filled with doubt, worry, anxiety, loss of trust, and little self worth. Whereas the adult that was supported and built up, has the world at their finger tips always having faith there is a way and that there is always hope. How the adult who is built up deals with a conflict is to work through whether it be at work, school, or a relationship they see it as an opportunity for further growth and understanding for both parties. Whereas the adult whose dreams had been crushed along with their self confidence enters a conflict ready to fight back or eternalize it beating themselves up and others.

     This does not have to be true of everyone. The fact is your past does not have to define you; you can overcome any broken confidence face fear of loving someone and being loved. There are therapists that can help simple things as affirmations or support groups. Road blocks of the mind and can be placed there but you have the power of either keeping them or tearing them down. The power comes from within yourself, the first part is looking at the dead end way of thinking and living and wanting the change in your life. Then just take that huge first step toward changing for a better way of living and thinking. You’re not alone people face these road blocks everyday and find the power and help to tear them down so you are never alone. – Rebekah E. Backstrom January 14th, 2010