As a goth, stereotypes can be an amusing subject. Whether it’s being called a witch, a pervert, a vampire or a devil worshipper, every goth gets it thrown in their face sooner or later that most of the world just doesn’t comprehend what goth even is. Too bad for them, eh? The Gothic subculture can be many things, there’s a myriad of offshoots each more misunderstood than the last. One of the most unifying aspects is facing the same idiotic stereotypes at the hands of uninvolved but nosy bystanders.

Gothic culture has nothing to do with depression. Basing a subculture around a mental illness is not only offensive to goths, but to those suffering from depression as well. While the dark themes and morbid symbolism may seem depressing, it’s not. The awareness of death can bring one a greater appreication of being alive. Accepting all parts of the life cycle can be a sign of a healthy psyche. If you’d like to discuss subcultures and mental illness, look up Pro-Ana, they’re anorexic and proud of it.

Religion, whether Satanism, Christianity or Wicca has nothing whatsoever to do with Goth. A goth may practice any faith in which they feel comfortable, or none at all, but it’s completely unrelated to their being Goth or not. While certain faiths and practices are more favored amongst the community, there are goths of every spiritual persuasion. No religion is gothic, and Goth has no official religion. Symbols from many different faiths may be incorporated into the tattoos and accessories of goths, and wearing symbols you know nothing about purely for fashion is silly regardless of what lifestyle you choose to lead.

Vampirism is another commonly slung barb. While many goths may take interest in novels about vampires, or dress in ways that resemble stereotypical vampires, it’s not essential to being goth. The imagery and stories may be interesting fiction, but they’re not real. There are people who role-play, there are people who drink blood.. These people are fetishists and Vampire Lifestyle folks who really aren’t Goths in the traditional sense, but often get lumped in as they’re even less understood. Fetish is a sub-scene within Gothic culture, and while many goths may enjoy vinyl and bondage, it is not required, nor is it anyone’s business what consenting adults may choose to do.

To defend oneself against the stereotypes and discomfort of being stared at, using my personal favorite mantra can help. They’re staring because I look fabulous will make the harsh glares turn into admiration if you really believe it. Sarcasm is another way to deflect verbal attacks, replying in a calm, clear tone with a witty jab that the victim may or may not understand feels good. Bonus points if you can make someone else laugh with your quip. Should someone snatch their child’s arm to protect them from the imagined threat of someone different, make sure to look them in the eyes and smile. It scares them more than anything if you remain silent and just grin politely.