Recently I read an article on CNN that struck a chord with me as I am sure it did with millions of others. It was about single parents. But what it was really about was single mothers. This article was totally one sided and one would have thought that whom ever was conducting such a survey spent their time in an unwed teen home or something because it was totally off the mark.

I am a single mother by choice, I am in my thirties and was in my thirties when I had my daughter. I was gainfully employed with benefits and still am. In fact in this day and age most women are not waiting for the knight in shining armor to come riding in on the white horse anymore as that is a fairy tale. More and more adult women are having children out of wedlock because they can provided just fine for their child by themselves and do not need a man. There are also couples who have been together for years and want to have children and do with out the help of a marriage certificate. This does not mean that these children are the plight of society.

The so called study that was done basically said that we, the single mothers of America are the plight of society. That we drain the economic resources such as welfare, that we bog down the criminal justice system because our kids are more likely to get in trouble. OK let me put this to bed. I have not ever gotten welfare and it seems to me that you have to be a couple that is married or right from another country in order to get help from this government. Just ask the starving homeless. Once I needed help paying a light bill because they raised their rate and not my pay check so I went to ask for one time assistance and because I was dressed for work I was told that I could not be helped. I had not filled out form one. However there were several Hispanic people there dressed in jeans and what not, I am sure they were happily assisted.

As for the kids of single parents getting into trouble. It seems to me that again this goes back to the ‘Justice for all’. No I don’t buy it. In Plano Texas the ISD is supposed to be one of the best. It is also one of the more well off, it is also where families live. Yes the devote mothers and fathers with the big houses and cars. They give Jr. everything and he gets high on Meth. Yes it is known for Meth. Out in another wealthy school district where mommy and daddy just live for the kids, they sell steroids. So as far as it being a single parent problem no, just a money one. If you have the money to buy you child out of trouble it does not mean they are going to stop getting in it. It just means that the parent can cover it up and the children can go on into adulthood thinking that the world owes them something for just being. That is a disservice to everyone.

Then I have an issue with the fact that there was never an issue with this survey speaking on the fact that men in this society take and accept no responsibilities what so ever for the children they make. Women who do find themselves pregnant and in situations where the men just leave because he can not and will not be a man and own up to the responsibilities of being a father should also be held accountable. Why is it always the woman’s fault? It takes two the last time I counted. If you do not want kids there is enough birth control information out there, use it. So for this silly little survey with the moral police telling you that this is an inner city issue and if we don’t all stop having sex out side marriage we are all going to hell. I say get your facts straight and this is 2008. Having educated sex is what you need to be saying. Get over it sex is here to stay. All churches know that because even they are having some.